All services are available to those over the age of 21 years ONLY. If you look young for your age I will ask to see your ID.
Consulting Sessions
Consulting sessions are your chance to explore activities you think you might enjoy with a skilled professional in a safe environment. Consulting sessions are for a minimum of four hours, and consist of an hour or so of in-depth conversation to plan our scene together, including selection of safewords. This will followed by around two hours of BDSM activities, plus breaks, followed by a cool-down and aftercare section.
During the scene I will be continually checking your consent step-by-step as we explore the ideas set out in our preliminary chat. You will progressively surrender control to me within the safe space of the scene. Hopefully it will all go smoothly and have a wonderful time, but that’s not always the way it goes when you are trying something new.
So particularly on a first session I will constantly check that you are OK with where we are, checking how your hands are feeling if you are bound, how the strokes are feeling if we are doing impact play, and so on. I will be steering the scene and directing the action moment to moment, but if something seems a bit much for you we will immediately back it down. There won’t be any “failure” or criticism – how can you know what you can take until you’ve tried it?
It’s a journey of discovery and heading off in the wrong direction occasionally is part of that. It’s literally my job to help you find the path in a BDSM session that works for you. BDSM is a game that’s played for fun, and figuring out the rules is something that has to be done individually with each different play partner – and it’s not even guaranteed to be the same from day-to-day even with the same person. I will draw on my experience as an on-screen dom tying up hundreds of different people, and help you find the right way for you.
The fun thing for me is always my partner’s reactions. I don’t really care if the thing that is driving you wild is a gentle rope hug or a harsh caning; as I said, I can book a shoot to do harsh stuff any time I feel like it. What I what to do is find the connection, figure out what makes you tick, and go onwards and upwards from there.
Activities
The services I offer include:
- Bondage. My usual rope style is hybrid of western and shibari traditions and I have a wide range of equipment such as armbinders etc.
- Spanking/Impact Play. Includes hand spanking, OTK spanking, and implements including cane, crop, paddle, tawse and floggers. We will discover whether sting or thud is your thing.
- Roleplay
- Chastity Play
- Edging
- Electro-play
- Wax play
- Bastindo (punishments to soles of feet, a particular favourite of mine)
- Primal play
- Hunter/prey play
- CNC scenarios, once we have played together a few times and are confident in reading each other’s expressions and reactions.
- Sensual domination
- Bondage for pleasure
- Pain play
- Gags
- Sensory deprivation, blindfolds, teasing and sensory play
- Verbal domination and humiliation, within my limits (see below)
- Nipple clamps and similar pleasure/pain toys
- Slave training
- Brat play and brat training
Scarlett’s First Session, a fictionalised version of one of my initial consulting sessions.
My Style of Domination
“Jolly Dom” sums it up really. I enjoy BDSM, I am a natural dominant sadist and I will enjoy
unleashing that on you to produce reactions that are satisfying for me, and painful-but-cathartic-or-pleasurable for you. I’m naturally cheerily avuncular by disposition in a scene, although if you prefer your sadism served cold I am happy to oblige.
We will go at whatever pace is enjoyable to you. I will read your reactions – in initial sessions when I don’t know your body language that will be explicitly checking in an ensuring enthusiastic continued consent step-by-step. As we get to know each other there will likely be fewer and fewer words spoken.
I am not naturally very garrulous in scenes (despite the excess verbiage in this website). I am not a big dirty talker but am happy to incorporate verbal aspects into our scenes to press all the right buttons for you. But I should probably say that if you need a constant refrain of domly patter for the whole session, I might not be the best fit for you.
Likewise, there are a few other things which are not my scene:
What I am not good at:
Being The Finickity Dom
I am not good at being the hyper-critical finickity shouty or mean dom. If your kink is being told off because your stocking tops are 1 mm higher on your left leg than on your right, or you want to be told you are lazy, ugly or worthless I am ABSOLUTELY NOT the dom for you. I struggle enough with playing this character in films, I don’t want to have to play him off screen. I want to be tying up someone I think is super, and I won’t be shy about telling you that you’re super (even while I hurt you).
Dressing Up
I have sensory processing issues with a lot of clothing, so while I’m happy to show willing in dressing up a bit for a roleplay, for the most part you’ll find me in comfy clothes while I dominate you. You are the one heading for sensory overload, not me!
Dominating Men
While I have over two decades of experience tying up women, I have no experience tying up or dominating men. I am therefore not qualified to charge money for such and will not run sessions under those conditions. In my private life I am (thus-far) exclusively heterosexual.
Is that a never? No, it’s not. I am willing to be hired so long as there is someone else with you who feels comfortable reading your body language and reactions. So I’m happy to run a consulting session for couples to give you lessons and show you the ropes, or as a rigger or adjunct top to another provider who feels confident that they know what they are doing.
Switching
I am a dominant sadist and I do not switch. Is that a never? Yes it is.